Birthday (Required) Month 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 Day 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30 31 Year 2024 2023 2022 2021 2020 2019 2018 2017 2016 2015 2014 2013 2012 2011 2010 2009 2008 2007 2006 2005 2004 2003 2002 2001 2000 1999 1998 1997 1996 1995 1994 1993 1992 1991 1990 1989 1988 1987 1986 1985 1984 1983 1982 1981 1980 1979 1978 1977 1976 1975 1974 1973 1972 1971 1970 1969 1968 1967 1966 1965 1964 1963 1962 1961 1960 1959 1958 1957 1956 1955 1954 1953 1952 1951 1950 1949 1948 1947 1946 1945 1944 1943 1942 1941 1940 1939 1938 1937 1936 1935 1934 1933 1932 1931 1930 1929 1928 1927 1926 1925 1924 1923 1922 1921 1920 SELF INTIMACY I can say that I am putting my best foot forward as it pertains to taking care of myself, living the life that I want, and doing what is most important to me. I feel that I maintain my sense of self and personal identity even though I have a partner in life. I spend adequate time taking care of myself, my personal hygiene, & my health (physical, mental, emotional). SPIRITUAL INTIMACY I feel that I have a sense of purpose in my life and that my life and how I live it has meaning. I feel that I have spent adequate time determining what my spiritual beliefs are. I can say that I respect and love all parts of myself, physically & spiritually. SEXUAL INTIMACY I have set non-negotiable boundaries & rules over how my body is to be treated by others, whether physically, sexually, verbally, or emotionally. I know my sexual preferences, likes, dislikes, and what I am curious about or open to trying with preferred individuals (homo vs. hetero vs. non-identified, serious vs. casual). I can identify at least 3-5 positive attributes that I bring to sexual intimacy. EMOTIONAL INTIMACY I feel like I understand my emotions, where they come from, & how to manage them. I am capable of allowing and feeling uncomfortable emotions and getting past them. I choose to utilize safe & smart stress management techniques when needed. FINANCIAL INTIMACY I feel like I have a healthy relationship with money & finances. I have a financial plan for my future, for both financial success & managing potential financial crises. I know what I value most, financially, in choosing a partner. FRIENDSHIP INTIMACY My current sphere of influence influences me in a positive way that propels my life forward. I feel that I show up equally for the friendships that show up for me the most. I feel valued for who I am by my current friendships. COMMUNITY INTIMACY I am confident in the amount of time I take to give back to my community. I enjoy the level at which I participate in advocacy, charity, outreach, social justice, and/or community initiatives. I am confident that both my digital presence and usage are productive, meaningful, and positively impactful on the digital community. CAREER & WORK INTIMACY I feel that my current job and/or professional line of work “suits” my unique skills, personal & professional attributes. I spend time on a routine basis checking in with my career & professional goals to make sure I stay on track with what I want out of my career & professional endeavors. I am confident in how I “show up” at work; this includes my professional appearance, how I take care of my workspace, and how well I interact & connect with coworkers, clients, vendors, & service providers. ACTIVITIES INTIMACY (Recreational, Aesthetic, Creative) I spend adequate time taking part in activities that bring me joy & that allow me to authentically self-express. I spend adequate time admiring nature & natural elements and beauties of the world, life, and human existence. I partake in sufficient activities that allow me to relieve stress safely, wisely, and effectively. HUMOR INTIMACY It is easy for me to experience joy and laughter. I spend adequate time experiencing joy and laughter. I know how to identify what brings me joy and laughter. INTELLECTUAL INTIMACY I spend adequate time learning and stimulating my mind & brain. I make the effort to learn about new things, stay current on relevant affairs, & increase my breadth of knowledge. I consider myself to be intellectually adequate, sexy, &/or desirable. COMMUNICATION (Crisis, Conflict, Forgiveness) I feel adequate in my ability to communicate my feelings, thoughts, & ideas to others. I feel worthy of forgiveness & I feel adequate in my ability to forgive others for mistakes. I feel confident in how I manage crises and conflicts that arise in my life. PARENTING INTIMACY I know where I stand on the topic of parenting; (want/don’t want children, adoption/surrogacy, natural/unnatural). I am confident in my financial, social, & emotional abilities to be a parent. I know what I value most & how to implement it in parenting.